The Ten Commandments Of Rizz

Talking to a woman you don’t know & trying to ask her out can be super intimidating - believe me, I know! Here’s a list of ten ways to do it more easily & successfully.

(These are meant mostly for talking to a girl at a bar or similar social outing)

1. Thou shalt not wait until she’s alone to approach her. It’s fine and often preferable to introduce yourself to her & her group of friends as well.
   

2. Thou shalt not stare at her for more than three seconds before making your approach. Hesitation will creep her out & you will psych yourself out.
   

3. Thou shalt not approach just because the group she’s with includes guys. If you haven’t seen her touch any of them, start from the assumption that she’s single.
   

4. Thou shalt not start a conversation by apologizing. Phrases “Excuse me”, “Pardon me”, and “I’m sorry to bother you” make you sound like a beggar.
   

5. Thou shalt not offer to buy her a drink if you’re out at a bar. You shouldn’t need to pay for her attention.
   

6. Thou shalt not touch her right away. Save it for the first date, unless you’re trying to take her home that night - in which case, still give it a while.
   

7. Thou shalt not ask her what her name is, what she does, or where she’s from (at least not in the first few questions). She’s tired of answering those same questions from every guy.
   

8. Thou shalt keep a respectful distance - don’t lean in too close or hover over her. If she can’t hear you, speak louder instead of coming closer.
   

9. Thou shalt not focus all of their attention on her when she’s with other people. If you can impress her friends, you will impress her.
   

10. Thou shalt find joy in making others feel happy, instead of making themselves feel happy. Making her smile is worth your while.

Hope you enjoyed this issue!

Fritz Johnson, Signing Off